Back In The Saddle

Standing up after a bad experience is one of the most difficult things to do.

You need all your energy and strength to re-start from scratch. Using that bad outcome as an input to improve yourself. Understanding what to do even better or differently and what not to do at all.

A common saying reads “time heals everything”, yes, it’s true… Especially if you know how to use that regenerating time to recover yourself and your emotions. Thinking about what the next first step could be.

The first step is always the hardest to take. It involves the first action but, above all, it represents your most important decision taken: get back in the saddle.

This is what matters: your will to try again after a displeasure, your will to re-start after a “failure”, your will to remove your bad thoughts and to move them constructively. Your courage to go ahead, to not be crushed by disappointment. Your will to achieve what you desire, your wish to see yourself succeed.

In other words: your will to risk again on your skin, because you don’t want to regret not having done enough and your best.

You cannot deny you’re a different person now.

After a bad experience, you’re more aware about what a “negative result” is. The “fear to lose” doesn’t disappear and, actually, it would be wrong to ignore it. It has hit you so much, but my best piece of advice is to catch the opportunity to learn from what has gone wrong. Let’s focus on the knowledge you can get from such experience, it will be useful next time.

John Wayne said “courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway”.

It takes courage to get back in the saddle and become what you really are, achieving what you deeply desire. Personally or professionally. It depends on you, it’s up to you. Bad experiences happen, but it doesn’t mean that the game is over.

External events can be handled, emotions can be managed. We are the engine of our lives. Let’s work on it then, deciding for the right attitude, will, skills, knowledge, awareness… courage and time.

It could be not easy, but I wish everyone to listen to the little voice coming from the heart that every evening says “try again tomorrow”!

Enza Artino,
International Service Manager c/o Wyser; Coaching Competence Center Manager c/o Gi Group