Make Things Happen

Making things happen is one of the most fulfilling satisfactions I can feel. I love making decisions and having an impact on the surrounding environment, as well as I self-motivate myself in changing those things I don’t like.

I’m a huge sponsor of being a “change engine”. Jimmy Dean, an American actor, said “I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination”.  Regardless of the professional or personal topic, being an active part of the process could be an advantage, especially if you don’t want to suffer the events.

On the other hand, I can see many people having a completely different approach toward change or, generally speaking, toward the happening events.

They are quite passive and, sometimes, they consider “making things happen” as a personal danger. It can be hard for those people to impact on the final result, especially if they are scared about their own exposure.

That’s the reason why they are often at the mercy of external events or of someone else’s decision. They just cross their fingers, hoping in a favorable outcome.

I’m not saying that “waiting” or “not doing” is always wrong, indeed it could be a strategic part of your overall plan. Rather, I’m saying that keeping this behavior everlastingly could be risky if you’ve not evaluated your passive actions strategically.

Once we have the situation in our “locus of control”, I believe it’s a great opportunity making things happen. I mean, leading the events is like surfing on a wave. It seems impossible until it’s done!

A client I coached a couple of years ago was living a dilemma about it. She would like to make things happen, but she was stuck by the fear to do mistakes and the fear that someone could reject her.

She wasn’t “surfing” at all. She was in the middle of the sea overwhelmed by the waves and she was  struggling a lot with that. For a period, she decided to avoid any decision, hoping that something/someone could save her…. But the dark side of her decision was that she continued to be upset and, above all, she felt drowned.

After a few meetings working on that, she started to unblock herself and she found the courage to be a “things maker”, doing things that she didn’t think she was able to do before!

Surfing, she became another woman, a happy one. She took her professional life in her own hands and, most important, she decided to be responsible for her happiness, making things happen directly or indirectly.

It was something special and priceless.

As a wise unknown author said “Nobody has the power to make things perfectly, but everyone has been given countless chances to make things right”.

Just do it!

 

Enza Artino,
International Service Manager c/o Wyser; Coaching Competence Center Manager c/o Gi Group